How to Deal With Social Anxiety | Overcome Anxiety Tips & Tricks
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- Опубликовано: 7 мар 2017
- In this video, I share with you how you can overcome social anxiety.
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Every time you experience Social anxiety, you create a balloon.
Every time you feel anxious and you let that anxiety stop you from doing what you wanted,
Canceling that event, ignoring that stranger you wanted to talk to etc.
You create a balloon i.e. a reference experience.
If you are a socially anxious person you probably have a lot of these reference experiences. Am I right?
The way they work is they keep you in your place, your comfort zone.
Whenever you want to try something new in a social context your mind will look back at these reference experiences and say,
Nah, remember all the other times you became awkward? You are not the type of person to do it, you have social anxiety and guess what?
If you listen to your mind, you create one more reference experience.
It’s a vicious cycle.
The only way to pop these balloons that your mind have hoarded
Or
change these reference points is
Start acting differently.
Move towards your anxiety.
Do the thing that actually is making you anxious.
Yes, it sounds scary but it’s the only way.
I know you were expecting a quick fix, a way to avoid this but deep down you know this is the only way.
If you get butterflies in the stomach, tightness in your chest doesn’t matter make yourself do it.
You could start small - What’s one little thing you could do?
Maybe talk a little bit louder or go show up to that event you want to cancel.
When you act in spite of it, what will happen afterward is beautiful.
You will realize most people are so caught up in their own world that they don’t actually realize if you come off as a little weird.
You will pop all of the balloons and see your real personality.
Over time, you will see yourself as a confident person and every day for you will be anxiety free :)
Show the anxiety that you are the boss 
Хобби
Practice Meditation and Self-love. Its the best medicine out there for all suffering ❤️
Yep!! The subconscious listens!!!
thank you so much... this vedio was a great help... you are absolutely correct.. that other people are occupied with their own problems so much that they don't even pay attention to our weirdness👍 and needless to say.. you are an amazing soul and you are doing a great work👍👍
You deserve more subscribers
I mean your giving advice that helps million and millions of people I hope you get 1 million subs
thanks bro. it helps. you know i am suffering from anxiety, i cant able to talk english on the phone if someone is sitting besides me, sometimes i cant eat like am shaking if someone is staring at me especially my crush.
I needed this so much. Thank you so much 😊
This channel is full of fantastic information. Please keep making videos for years to come!
thank you! , the best way out is always through
The glow of his eyes from the light were so distracting! haha Very good video!
Yeah I noticed in your videos how more vibrant you can be in the outside. I was quite impressed by your video taking abilities. You have a good way of conveying information through video, and outside you seemed to have more creative freedom.
Thank you for the soothing kind words. God bless
Thank you so much for this
This is such a great video, very high quality. I was looking you in the eyes the whole time and I couldn't stop but noticing the reflection of that ring light you use as ilumination and how it just made your eyes look so creepy lol.
I just decided to make a routine of watching ur videos on waking up every morning 😍 you are awesome Rafael!
Thank you so much for this It was great 👍👏👏
Speechless.........first of all.....u thoroughly change my perspective..........thank you so much
anxiety =the edge of my comfort! that was deep thanks
Wow amazing advice. I've heard countless videos on this topic and this one is by far the best. You explain it in such a genuine and heartwarming way that really resonated with me. Thanks! All your videos are fantastic!
no dislikes! i used to have social anxiety too, and i totally can relate you!! new subscriber here. keep go on with your videos.
anxiety can only get to you if you let it dont let anxiety rule your life deal with it
OMG you just opened my eyes, i wasn't even conscious that i'm that kind of person that will speak only when it's spoken to. I'm very afraid to start the conversation.
I love you 🤗 Thank you so much for all your regular videos. Love it
Rafael Eliassen Yay looking forward to it! 🙂
Almost brought a tear to my eye. This was very powerful
Same here Bro.
Omg thank you really❤😅 i needed to hearrr all of thisss because I'm going through thiss specially in school and in my relationships
Thank you for sharing and glad you enjoyed the video :)
NICE!!!!!!!
Very nice video☺
thank youu soo much coach *i mean coach in terms of life*, you helped me verry verry much!! :))
Thank you!!!!❤❤
Rafael Eliassen You really helped me!! I tried to do what you say yesterday at a party and it worked! And I felt happy! You are a very good man!!
Thnk u bro
I have same some days suxxx
i have a social anxiety too
great video :D
Yes, as someone who has/had anxiety, I've slowly gotten better by doing something "scary".
Although I have therapist, you tackled the basics of what my therapy does: Have anxiety? Do the scary thing anyway lol 😂....great video man
What were the best tips you learned from your therapist to help you with social anxiety? I've never gone to a therapist, but I've found the same to be true. Just by using systematic desensitization
Baron St. Von Just what you said, systematic desensitization.
The therapy is CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) no drugs, just facing your fears in small steps. It's all based on Albert Ellis, he went out for 100 days and approached women, after being rejected so many times, his anxiety learned that being rejected wasn't a big deal lol.
Also if you're interested in more, Albert Ellis based his therapy on Stoicism. The best book I've read (and modern) comes from Ryan Holiday's "The Obstacle is the Way"
YoAntoNeo Thanks for the Albert Ellis tip, AntoNeo. That's a hilarious story. Haha. Never heard of that before. Definitely going to read a book or two by him now. And I haven't gotten to that Ryan Holiday book yet, but I'm a big fan of his stuff
Awesome
Make more videos about social anxiety
It's easy to say that...
Freaking awesome
**claps** i have nothing to say but thanks..thanks for changing my life
When I said to my parents that i have anxiety they said 'Are you crazy? Coz if u are go to mental hospital. Anxiety is just for crazy peoples.
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I wish I knew where u lived ...... I would have come and cuddle u so hard .........
I wished I lived in Norway
Wow you don't blink much..
Did. Not helping.